Shattered Heaven

Hey crazy cats! It's been awhile, so I'm gonna just jump into our subject today. I promise to bring everyone up to date as we go along, later on. An interesting subject has come up in the news. As a matter of fact, lately it's all you hear from Hollywood. From Courtney and David, to Arnold and Maria...Yep, you guessed it...break-ups! They're messy. They're hurtful. They're commonplace. Gone are the days of sticking to the end. Gone are the days of fidelity.
 So I did a little research before I started writing this entry. I found out that:

1. 50% of marriages end in divorce.
2. 60% of married men and 40% of married women have cheated at least one time in their marriage.
3. 80%-85% of married couples have flirted with co-workers.
4. In recent years, women have become more "aggressive" when it come to pursue a extra-marital affair.
5. 90% of those surveyed say that cheating is morally wrong, but not a crime.

 We see these numbers and really don't react to them as we should. In part, I believe, it's because we don't "feel" the pain. However, when you're on the receive end of an affair, things are very painful. Usually, the hurt spouse looks for a reason why the other spouse must've strayed. The feeling of anger, sadness, disbelief, and many others fill the mind.
 We share our most intimate moments with them. We fall in love. We envision a world where only they exist. We set forth our desire to spend our lives with them. We marry. It should be happily ever after, right? Well, marriage is a lot of work. It's basically like having lighted matches in a dynamite factory and expecting nothing bad to happen. Sometimes, it works out and no explosion. Other times...well, let's just say it's really....well, you get the picture.
 When it comes to infidelity, it's usually a death-blow to a marriage. Yet, even a marriage can survive such a devastation. If you want to save it, you can. It isn't easy. There is a lot of work to be done. It's something that you work at for a couple of months then it's fixed. You can't pretend it never happened or refuse to talk about it. Although it's extremely painful, it must be addressed...by both sides.
 There's going to be a lot of yelling. There's going to be a lot of cold nights. However, if you did the crime, then do the time. It's only fair. No one held a shotgun to your head when you married....unless, it was a shotgun wedding.
 Only a few chose to try to fix it though. Lately, it seems like its easier just to throw it all away and try to start anew. My question is then: how do we learn from our mistakes then? If you can walk away and not accept the consequences, how do you grow? We evolve only when we see our weaknesses and try to get rid of them.
 It's going to be interesting to see where "The Govenator's" situation ends up at. However, we all know how is it going to finish. I don't blame his wife. She's on the recieving end. I can relate.
 Anywho, I hope everyone has a beautiful weekend. Take care of your loved ones. Keep safe and dream big!