Dr. Psycho Sam's Blah-Blah-Palooza: By-gones be By-gones

 

 Hey crazy cats! We're off and starting another week. Fall is in the air. We, here in Florida, feel it in the air. The temperature this morning was a cool 60 degrees. You can't ask for anything more.
 Enough about the weather! I'm going to jump right into the entry. Today, the subject is going to be about grudges. You know full well we have all had grudges. We get angry at someone and we hold onto negative feelings for as long as possible. We look for reasons to keep in our silly ways. My question is why?
 To understand why people do the things they do is to go completely insane. We are all different, yet so much alike. Most of us laugh at what the consensus thinks is funny. We all get angry at what we all think is an injustice. It is amazing, however, to see how many of us will tend to go against the norm and become angry, to the point of a psychiatrist's golden dream, at people.
 Usually, a grudge is directed to someone we know fairly well. It can be a family member, a best friend, or a co-worker. The grudge goes from an upset feeling to a deep-rooted hate. It's like a venom that takes a strangle-hold on our conscience and heart and does not want to let go. It slowly corrodes the soul and makes us lose our light from within.
 When we look at it like that, there isn't a real reason to keep a grudge against anyone. Sometimes the best thing to do is to let go. The first step is the hardest. It is like walking across hot coals. Yet, it can be done. All it takes is swallowing our pride, keep a check on anger, and letting the other person how you feel without trying to hurt them with attacking words. Tough job, huh?
 I don't pretend to hold the cure-all answer to life's greatest mysteries. I don't pretend to give you the magical spell to make people change who they are. I do talk about who I am, who I've become, and what I feel. Some will like it. Some will hate me...even more. I try to be the best person possible. Life is way too short to hate.
 I recently had an encounter with a person who I was truly upset at. We sort of stopped talking to each other on a really sour note. Two months had passed before we started talking again. We didn't start off by saying we were sorry or that we had valid reasons for our argument. We just simply started talking. We were reminded how great it was just to talk. It was like going back to the way we used to talk before the argument.
 About half way through our talk, we started to talk about what happened. Instead of arguing, we talked. We said we were sorry. It wasn't a forced apology. It was geniune. It was beautiful. Our friendship stood the test of an argument. Our foundation has been solidified.
 Now, the question is were we holding a grudge against each other? No. We were just a little stung. Sometimes, in friendships, stuff like that happens. I'm just glad it worked out very well. I don't like making enemies. Life is about making positive influences on other people's lives.
 Now, if we could only do the same with.....nevermind. Having that happen is like wishing for a million dollars. It could happen, but chances are slim...
 Anyway folks, I'm calling this one done. Have an outstanding week. Keep safe and dream big!

Dr. Psycho Sam's Blah-Blah-Palooza: Rediscovering Discovered Country

 Hello crazy cats! This entry is kind of like something I came across and something I recently witnessed happen to one of my friends...well, sort of. The question I will ask is one that we don't see often in our age and time. If it happens and it works, it is nothing short of a miracle.
 The article I read posed the question would you remarry your ex? Wow! I know! I know that about 90% of you will yell out not just no, but heck no! Then you start thinking...hmmmm.... Well, if the conditions were right I would. Then you start to think about the bad times first. However, those bad thoughts turn into good thoughts. Before long, you have a feeling of comfort.
 You probably think I'm crazy or just plain stupid. Yet, I've seen this happen quite a bit recently. One of my friends ( she will remain nameless) called me up the other day with an interesting dilemma. She was seeing this guy, but not dating him (can someone tell me the difference?). An old flame came by. She loves everything about this guy. She also didn't want much to deal with him.
 Mind you, when my friends speak with me about certain issues, I never try to tell them what to do. I only suggest alternatives and let them either pursue the alternatives or make up their own. The decision is always theirs to make. This way, they always feel empowered. I never say you should break up or forget that loser. I try to just present the facts, that they've told me, and clarify any confusion. They usually have the answer all along.
 So back to the story... Yes, she did end up back with the old flame. She has never looked happier. She understands that there's going to be rough spots. All relationships, especially rekindled ones, have them. She has proven to me that if you really want to, anyone of us can do or achieve anything.
 I know some people (mostly my friends....right Vero?) are wondering my thought about the subject. Well... hmmm. I would like to make peace with everyone. I would love to close that chapter in my life. I would love to say thanks, I'm sorry, and maybe even leave with a smile. As for reviving a relationship, that's a good question. I figure that even if I ever entertained the idea, it takes two to reconcile. So, I guess it's like North and South Korea. No one ready to make the first move, neither negatively or positively.
 I guess it's really my fault. I'm usually the one who braves first. I guess I grew tired after I tried several times early in the event. I grew jaded. I became bitter. I later grew out of it, but I never made an effort to revisit the issue. I know of couples who have done the closure thing and have worked out well. They've gone on with their lives after the closure.
 So, I guess I would like closure. As for the question?...well, the jury is still out on that one. I will not say never. I will not say impossible. I've seen The Creator do some amazing, way off the wall, jaw-dropping, logic-defying things in my life. So, my answer is I have no answer (that's really politician-like).
 Anywho, please feel free to give me freedback, opinions, share stories either here or on my Facebook page. In the meantime, I hope everyone has a great weekend. Keep safe and dream big!

Dr. Psycho Sam's Blah-Blah-Palooza: Genesis

Hey crazy cats! I have decided to start something that I probably shouldn't be starting. I'm going to call  the segments Dr. Psycho Sam's Blah-Blah-Palooza. I'm not an expert on anything. I'm even qualified to tell you to get lost. As always, this is meant for entertainment. if you use it in your life, be aware of all the fire and brimstone that will follow! You've been warned! Keep safe and dream big!